by Travis Tagart
With Ferris Bueller Gifs, Because, Why Not?
Someone else took one for the team in the form of ScaryMommy's article "Our Kids Don’t Need F@*#ing Pedal Desks, They Need Recess". It's a passionate, strongly-worded indictment of what I call "the abuser strategy", even though perhaps author Maria Guido didn't intend to invoke this reality in her exposé. So, let's dig a little deeper.
I've noticed in all of the manipulative and abusive relationships (romantic or otherwise) I've encountered or observed in my lifetime, there's this one running "tactic" borderline sociopaths use to manipulate their partners' or friends' perceptions of them, and that is the idea of slowly and quietly creating an underlying problem that would have otherwise not been in existence, and then swooping in to "solve" it, be recognized as a hero, and gain some undeserved respect, trust, or love from their partners or friends.
For a little real-world application, I had a friend in high school who could never hang out with her friends because her significant other would give her some lame excuse just plausible enough for her to justify cancelling plans. Okay, cool. Eventually, though, this isolated her to the point where we all just sort of stopped inviting her, already knowing that she'd agree and have to cancel last minute. By the time she was isolated enough that we started talking to her about the fact that maybe this was a deliberate plan, she started to worry for herself, and before the worries could become conclusions, her significant other all invited us to participate in a surprise birthday party for her, which she saw as the grandest gesture he could have ever shown her, despite the fact that we wound up doing all of the planning, buying, and decorating, where he mainly just came up with the idea. But wouldn't you know? Every suspicion she had was shattered with this one grand appeal to emotion. When we tried to remind her that he was isolating her still, she brushed us off, because obviously that couldn't have been the case if he came up with this lavish surprise party!
He manufactured a problem, so that when we showed the slightest bit of discomfort with it, he could manufacture a half-baked "solution" that merely served to divert our attention away from the problem.
Take a deep breath.
In through your nose, and out through your mouth like a straw.
American School Districts manufacture problems, and when we show the slightest bit of discomfort with them, they manufacture half-baked "solutions" that merely serve to divert our attention away from the problem.
It didn't end well for my friend, and it's probably not going to end well for children in our school systems.
Consider the following progression of events, as I've observed it:
In the spirit of Maria Guido's article, that's bull s&#t and we shouldn't accept it. Only, a lot of people are.
In the Facebook comment thread I'm looking at for this article, the top 50 comments line up as follows:
We should be letting children play and engage in an environment that allows for most of the learning that would have happened through lectures and workbooks and textbooks to happen through toys and materials and nature and literature, and then fidgeting won't be a problem ever again. Not getting enough exercise wouldn't be a problem.
The expectations of children do not need to change. The expectations of their environments need to change. If a funding organization can agree to drop $12,000 on pedal desks, you can convince one to drop $6,000 on teacher training, a bunch of loose materials from thrift stores, the woods by your house, quality children's literature, and a professional aggregate of research to give to your district.
It might not work with the first try, but throwing up your hands and saying it's impossible or not worth it sure isn't doing children any good.
Need a solution? Let's stop behaving as if "we've been doing it this way for a long time" is a valid excuse for anything. History doesn't very much like that.
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